It’s Saturday morning, and you’re in the bathroom putting the finishing touches on your makeup, jamming to your favorite tunes.
In 10 minutes you’re heading out the door to brunch at Amy’s and you’re stoked. You met Amy a few weeks ago at a meetup and after sharing a laugh over a drink you spilled, a relaxed and engaging conversation just seemed to flow. Spending the next hour talking about everything from bad dates to business was hilariously fun and stress-free.
It was accidental friendship heaven.
So when Amy texted you a few days ago inviting you to brunch, you were 100% for it. On top of Amy being a blast, some of her other ambitious gal pals were coming too and you couldn’t wait to meet them. New like-minded friends are exactly what you need to empower and propel you forward towards your goals!
As you walk into Amy’s apartment, it’s buzzing with chatter. You don’t really know anyone other than Amy, but it doesn’t really bother you.
“Hey girl! Get over here, you need to meet Cassie!”
Amy’s waving you over, so you grab your drink and make your way to the kitchen, smiling at people as you pass. Cassie’s already talking when you walk up, and you excitedly join in. After introductions, Amy excuses herself and you and Cassie take the floor.
You’ve never talked to this woman in your life, but that isn’t holding you up. After swapping casual bits about traffic on the way over, the killer brunch spread, and what weird fashion trends are making comebacks, you settle into a groove. She’s dying to hear about what you’re working on and you can’t wait to find out what this infectiously joyful gal’s got up her sleeve.
The morning flies by and you head home, but not before swapping contact info and scheduling a coffee date for next week. After less than 3 hours of friendship, you’re already scheming up ways to collaborate with each other. You’re riding the new friend high, and you know it’s not ending anytime soon.
Aren’t you glad you went to brunch?
Now, hold up. I know what’s running through your head right now.
“Hannah, that sounds great, but I don’t live in a magical world where the chit chat just flows. I don’t get excited about talking to new people. Just the opposite. Talking freaks me out.”
You’re right. That isn’t your reality right now. But guess what?
Breaking free into a life filled with genuine, meaningful connection is totally possible for you!
But what happens if you do nothing?
If you don’t change things up, everything stays exactly as it is right now. Your current reality? Life feels messy, overwhelming, and stressful, filled with anxiety-inducing interactions. Making new friends isn’t empowering to you – it’s a suffocating prison you can’t even handle.
Life as you know it is not working for you. By not taking action and pursuing change, anxiety keeps the upper hand and continues to shove you down.
That dreamy brunch? Not so dreamy. Instead, that scenario would play out like this…
It’s early Saturday morning. The alarm isn’t due to go off for 30 minutes, but you’ve already been up for an hour stressing. Brunch starts at 11am, and even though it’s hours from now, you’re already wishing it was over.
Last week during a meetup you forced yourself to endure, your acquaintance Amy tossed out an invitation to brunch, and someone how you ended up getting swept up in the cheers of “yes.” Now the day is here, and you’re already struggling to breathe as you force yourself to walk out the door.
As you drive through traffic, your mind is racing as you imagine every single possible thing that could go wrong.
You feel completely unprepared. Forget having a spontaneous conversation. Your anxiety demands you prepare for every chat, but how can you when you’ve never met these people? Sure, you’d love to make new friends, but you have no clue how to just walk up to someone and start talking. Frustrated, you end up sitting quietly while everyone around you thinks you’re rude, cold, snooty or boring.
Why would today be any different?
You finally reach Amy’s house. In the past, you’ve regularly arrived at a venue only to drive around 4 or 5 times before giving up and heading home in defeat. This time you force yourself to park and get out, but walking to the door feels like a death sentence.
Amy welcomes you and leads you to the kitchen to grab a drink. Thank God there’s booze, you think to yourself. Loading up a large glass hoping it will get you through, you look around.
The room is filled with friendly chatter, but it may as well be a torture chamber. Suddenly, your throat starts to close and your body is screaming at you to run away in panic. Fighting off hot flashes, you chug your drink and try to join in the conversation.
You end up next to Jill, whom you’ve run into once or twice in the past. She turns to you and starts to chat. Though you’re happy you didn’t have to initiate, you’re still stressing. Casual back-and-forth conversations? Ugh. You feel like a robot shooting out questions instead of genuinely connecting, and you overthink almost every word that comes out of your mouth.
Soon, the inevitable happens. Your conversation with Jill awkwardly ends, but you’re used to that. Nervousness takes over causing you to crash in the first few minutes, leaving you kicking yourself after it’s too late.
Opening up just gets me hurt, why do I even bother? The obligatory small talk just feels so fake and pointless and stressful, can’t we just skip to the real stuff?
Defeated, you sneak out the door, too embarrassed to even say goodbye to Amy. Safe in your car, you fight back hot tears as you drive home.
Familiar feelings take over. Without a core sense of confidence, you feel isolated, lonely and powerless. Your mind floats back to your chat with Jill. So many times people just out-of-the-blue just stop talking to me, and I’m just over here like “will someone be my friend?”
Maybe it would have been best if you’d never even gone to brunch.
When you struggle with social anxiety, it’s so easy for it to dictate your life, but the good news is, that doesn’t have to be you anymore.
Introducing Social Skills & Confidence Coaching!
My coaching program is designed to help you finally break through into real change, real connection, and the thriving life you deserve.
Over the course of 12 weeks, we’ll work through 12 curated modules, with each week covering a critical step in breaking down the barriers holding you back while building up your social savvy.
You with me so far? Awesome. Here’s what you need to know.
12 Week Curated Module Breakdown
- Exploring Your Connection Goals
- Lifecycle of a Social Engagement
- Small Talk Breakdown
- Small Talk Workshop
- Identifying Your Connection Style
- Creating Your Custom Connection Plan
- Real Life Application, Week 1
- Real Life Application, Week 2
- Evaluation & Fine Tuning
- Review & Launch
- Tuneup Session
- 29 page downloadable PDF workbook with worksheets and notes for all 12 sessions
- 12 weeks total: one 50 min call per week for 11 weeks, then 1 Tuneup Session at 30 min
- All calls held via Zoom. Must have webcam and internet access.
- Enrollment subject to application approval/availability.
- $1597 (if paid up front in full)
- $1917 (with payment plan, 3 monthly payments of $639)
By investing in this elite, one-on-one experience, you’re taking the first step towards living a life you’ve always dreamed of, filled with genuine connection and real relationships.
If you’re ready to break through into who you’ve dreamed you could be, I’m ready for you.
Let’s do this!
I grew up a natural-born connector.
Even so, early college saw a Hannah who had lots of friends but no rockstar roster to lean on.
Desiring community that would ground me, I started intentionally reaching out and building genuine relationships with people, especially women. Women who would love me, encourage me, and help me grow and walk into the woman I was called to be. For years I’d been dreaming of meeting my best self, and through my newfound community, I found her.
Over the last 10 or so years, I’ve honed and perfected the crucial skills needed to seek out, attract, and grow deep, transformational community around me. Because of those powerhouse people, I’m night and day different from the woman I was before. I shudder to think what my life would be like without my community!
I can walk into any room and make friends with anyone. No stress. Going to a place where I don’t know anyone? No problem. I can build genuine community wherever I go, and it’s the most joyfully freeing superpower you can imagine.
What does that look like? Here’s a snapshot from my real life (p.s. this really happened), but it’s not just a one-off situation. I live this on the daily!
I’m in the car by myself, driving through downtown Portland. Finding a parking spot, I pull in, giving myself one final check in the rearview mirror before getting out. Still a couple blocks away, the hotel towers above me as I get closer.
I’d found out about this event the day before, but no one I knew could go with me. Too good of an opportunity to pass up, I decided to go alone.
Walking in, I see people everywhere. Armed with directions from the front desk, I head downstairs. Two gals who are obviously friends are headed down with me. As they snap a picture of the gorgeous event entrance, I make eye contact, smile, and show my support by cheering on the shot. They smile and banter back.
The escalator spits us out into an entire floor’s worth of event space filled with women I don’t know. Zeroing in on the snack table, I make a beeline for it, grab some water and scope out the seating situation.
No one’s really sitting down yet, but I toss my stuff on a chair close to the front but far enough back that I don’t feel like I’m weird. I sit for a second and then change my mind. I’m not here to sit alone, I say to myself, so I grab my stuff and head back out.
Chatting next to the drinks are the two girls I walked in with. I decide to just go for it and introduce myself. Straight to the point, I walk up and say hi. It works. Pretty soon the conversation’s in full swing and I’m feeling pretty confident. As people start heading in to sit down, I lead the charge and my two new friends follow me in, picking up a few others on the way.
Moments ago, I was ready to slip into a middle row. Now, newfound friendships in hand, I boldly head for the front row. “Let’s sit up here!” I cheer, and we pile in.
There are two open seats to my left. A woman slowly walks by, and I jump at the chance to chat. Soon she’s planted herself in the row, and as another gal floats by, we snag her too. They look at me and ask if I came with all the girls around me. “Nope!” I say with a smile. “We all just met!” They look at me surprised and with a little awe. “Dang, it looks like you’ve got a posse!”
Heck. To. The. YES.
30 minutes before I was walking into a huge hotel filled with strangers. Now I have a posse.
Zero to posse, that’s my superpower. And guess what? It can be yours too.
Am I the only ticket for beefing up your social confidence? Obviously not.
If you’re wanting to grow your connection skills, there are other options out there. Let’s break some of them down.
You could do nothing.
There are a ton of people out there who want change. Most of them never actually do what it takes to achieve it.
If you keep dreaming of your ideal social life but never actually make a move to grow, you’ll be in the exact same place in 1, 5, 10, 20 years from now. Add to that loneliness, isolation and stress, and that’s what “doing nothing” gets you.
You could buy a book.
Two seconds on Amazon is all it takes to get a self-help book zooming your way. Sure, it only cost you 10 bucks, but are the savings really worth it? Not only do you have to read the entire thing, but you have to try to understand, implement, and master the material all on your own.
And let’s be honest – if this route really worked, wouldn’t you have done it already?
You could google it.
Yes, if you had hundreds of hours to burn, you could scour the internet gathering tidbits of wisdom to help you level up your skills. But is that really worth your time?
Add to that the fact that you’ll have to DIY your own “program” and you’ve just given yourself another full-time job. Eww.
You could buy a generic course.
I’m not the only one who’s created materials, but I have spent years honing and perfecting the expertise to help women just like you thrive in social situations.
When you want to find someone to cut your hair, you don’t just pick anyone who knows how to use scissors. Just because some random person can cut out coupons doesn’t mean they know how to make you look fabulous.
When you’re investing in your growth, you want someone leading you who truly understands what you’re going through as an ambitious woman, the foundational concepts and strategies you need to learn, and how to help you master them.
Don’t settle for a one-size-fits-all program. You’re too good for that.
You can work with me.
Ok, you saw this one coming, didn’t you?
You’re an ambitious gal who’s dreams are being sabotaged by anxiety and the lack of a crucial set of skills. I understand exactly where you’re at.
Being a woman in this world comes with a unique slew of struggles. I experience those challenges too. Social interactions are a part of life we can’t live without, but navigating them can be overwhelming and challenging. Not only will my expertise help you to leave that mess behind, but I will empower you to not just “make it through” but experience a thriving social life that’s genuine to who you have been made to be.
I’ve curated the foundational principles of genuine connection and designed an elite program to help you master them while tailoring the learning process specifically to who you are and where you are in your social journey. No cookie cutter crap. We dive deep into what’s holding you back so we can blast through it.
Yes, you have options, but which one seems the best to you?
Alright, you’re tracking with me, but you’ve still got questions. Fair enough! Let’s tackle ‘em.
“Is this just more “fake it til you make it” advice? I hate that.”
I hate it too. When it comes to social confidence, “fake it til you make it” doesn’t help anyone, and it almost never truly works.
This program isn’t about forcing you to be someone you’re not. Instead, we’re going to focus on empowering you with strategies that reduce your anxiety while strengthening your social muscles so you can be confident in a way that’s genuine to YOU.
“Why is this program different from everything else out there promising to make me confident?”
Sure, there are a ton of programs and courses promising to boost your confidence and social skills, but not all are created equal.
Other programs try to cater to every person who might land on their site, while scrambling to include tidbits on everything from interviews to dating, without actually diving deep on any of those things.
This program has been created based on exhaustive research and expert-level experience, and it’s been designed specifically for the ambitious woman. By focusing on the crucial foundational social skills (without wasting time on fluff), you’re empowered to apply these core concepts in any situation you find yourself in.
“How do I know this program is for me?”
I get it. Diving into a new program can feel like a gamble, so here are some crystal clear guidelines to help you decide if this is right for you.
This Program IS NOT designed for you if:
- You want change but are unwilling to put in the work to achieve it.
- You like the idea of gaining new skills, but are unwilling to stretch or challenge yourself.
- You aren’t willing to invest in yourself or your future.
This Program IS PERFECT for you if:
- You’re an ambitious woman who has goals and dreams for a vibrant future. (Not a gal? Hang tight and keep reading, I’ll talk about that in a sec!)
- You desire to not just survive in social situations, but truly THRIVE in them.
- You’re willing to dive heart and soul into the work to bring lasting change.
- You’re ready to stretch and challenge yourself (with my help) even when it’s hard.
- You believe that you and your future are worth investing in.
“I’ve been this way my whole life. Is there hope for me?”
I firmly believe that you don’t have to be born with killer social skills – you can learn them!
Regardless of whether or not you were born socially confident, the foundational principles you’ll learn with me will empower and equip you to genuinely connect without feeling like you’re putting on an act.
“I’ve tried to learn and change on my own in the past but I’ve always failed. How will this time be any different?”
For starters, the whole point of this program is that you don’t have to do it alone!
I’ve designed this entire process to cater to your unique needs and situation, and I’ll be walking you through each step with you. Not only does this make you braver, but the accountability, support and advice will help you see real change much faster than if you had to slog through material on your own.
“I’m an introvert. Are you going to try to change me?”
STOP EVERYTHING AND LISTEN UP! There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, and I will never try to change who you are! You are an incredible creation, uniquely special just the way you are right this second.
While I won’t try to poof you into extroversion, growth does require stretching. If you want different results, you have to use different techniques!
In order to grow your social skills, you will have to try new things that feel a bit (or very) foreign to you at first, but don’t worry. We’ll adapt these to you and your needs, and I’ll NEVER push you off the deep end.
Baby steps, baby steps. That’s where real growth is born.
“Ok, so I want to try this… but what if I hate it?”
When trying something new, hating it is always a possibility.
I’ve poured all my expertise and experience into creating a program that will make you feel safe while you grow. I’m confident that if you commit to this process heart and soul, it will change your life.
However, if you dive in and find that this really isn’t for you, no hard feelings. (Can we still be friends though?) Check out my refund policy.
“Hannah, here’s the thing. Your program sounds like a perfect fit for me… but I’m a guy. What do I do?”
If you’re not a gal and you’ve read this far, don’t sweat.
It’s mega obvious that my content is geared towards women, but I know that quite a few men really click with my communication style and approach to social skills and confidence training. (I see you subscribing, hi five, guys!)
While I’ve designed my coaching program for women, I do coach men on a selective basis. If you think my program is just what you’ve been looking for, shoot me an email. Let’s chat and see if we’re a good fit.
I’ve helped a ton of people, but don’t just take my word for it! Here are what just a few of them have to say about me and my materials.
I knew she was onto something when reading a blog post made me feel like I was sitting down for coffee with a friend who was able to tap into all of my hidden anxieties in a 10-minute coaching session! 😅 Many of the world’s most successful entrepreneurs are natural introverts, and she shows us how to overcome the anxiety many of us may feel in everyday social situations. I found her advice to be relatable, actionable and straight-up. In today’s era of social media, and being the face of our own brands, genuineness has never been more refreshing!-Charlene, founder of Crazy Cute Co.
I was so happy to find that it was NOT stressful or anxiety-inducing. . . Often times when people who don’t struggle with anxiety or fear of social awkwardness are trying to “teach” these skills to those of us who do, they seem to subscribe to the sink-or-swim theory. Forcing you to do things that push you so far out of your comfort zone that you aren’t gaining anything from the exercise, you’re just trying to manage your panic.
I so appreciated that [Hannah] fostered a feeling of safety and acceptance. . . and that [she] broke the exercises down into small manageable interactions that didn’t feel terrifying. I have referred back to the pages and pages of notes I took that day many times and used the things [she] taught. I particularly liked [her] explanation of our role in a conversation and especially the practical tips on how to handle difficult situations (I.e. people monopolizing your attention, transitioning between people, connecting people to one another).
The number one thing I took away from this was that everything felt AUTHENTIC. I didn’t feel like I was learning strategies to convince people to buy things from me (which feels yucky to me) but instead learning how to be a better version of myself and new ways to open up doors of opportunity for myself.-Kristen, workshop event attendee
The Leading Lady is a game changer! Simple, practical and very effective skills laid out in a way that is easy to implement into everyday situations. Hannah has helped me become more confident talking to women I don’t know and deepening my relationships with the women already in my life. It’s definitely not something you want to miss out on, even if you think you have it all together. She takes BOSS BABE to a whole new level!-Sierra V.
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If you’re currently living in social hell, the good news is there’s a way out.
Even better news? You don’t have to claw your way out alone.
By investing in yourself and working with me, you open the door to transformation change in your life. Instead of feeling trapped, isolated, overwhelmed and powerless, you’ll master the skills you need to take charge of your relationships and build genuine community around you.
You deserve to live a thriving, vibrant, connected life. That life-changing next step is waiting for you. Slam that button below and let’s do this!